The meaningful connection that you build with another individual can make your life happier and easier. Many of the skills necessary for a happy and healthy relationship can be learned and repeated in other areas of life and with other relationships. As you grow with another individual, you learn greater communication skills and you become better at recognizing and showing feelings for various emotions on both sides.
1. Give before taking.
Establish trust and foster a connection with someone before asking for something from them. Making better choices takes work. There is a daily give and take, but it is worth the effort. Healthy relationships are a give and take process. There can’t be more giving than there is taking nor can there be more taking than there is giving. What this means is that you will have to learn how to make compromises, how to be accepting of flaws and how to work together. A relationship is a team effort and when both parties of the team are not equally involved in making strides to make things work, there can be mishaps. If you think that you are always going to be happy—think again! If you think that you are always going to get what you want – think again! Don’t set yourself up for failure by having unrealistic goals or desires within the relationship.
2. Ask more, assume less.
Asking thoughtful and open questions won’t make you look ignorant. In fact, it can make you avoid a miscommunication or mistake. Ask first to avoid misunderstandings, or disappointments based on misunderstandings, try to express your expectations explicitly. Less hints, more statements. Bonus points for social grace while doing so. Ask how you could do better in the future. Some smart people I know have been doing this for awhile, and it makes a lot of sense. Takes the edge off things by pre-emptively inviting constructive criticism and helps, well, be a better person all ’round. Ask more questions. If in doubt, and maybe even when not in doubt, ask. Asking open questions leads to knowledge, better understanding, and an overall better communication style. It also helps getting stuff done by avoiding doing unnecessary stuff.
3. Prepare purposefully.
Prepping before important conversations or meetings helps create meaningful and pertinent dialogue. Recap next steps, too. Follow your passion, be prepared to work hard and sacrifice, and, above all, and don’t let anyone limit your dreams. Whatever obstacle comes your way, you gotta be prepared to jump over it! And I think that’s what separates the legends from the regular artists. It’s all in how you manage that success, and how you deal with the controversy when it actually comes. In order to excel, you must be completely dedicated to your chosen field. You must also be prepared to work hard and be willing to accept constructive criticism. Without one-hundred percent dedication, you won’t be able to do this.
4. Share your personality.
Bringing a human element to work, sharing what you’re passionate about, skill you have outside of work, etc. can help others relate to you. Sometimes, we often tend to admire certain people because we see something of ourselves in them. We like to think that what they do, and how they do it, reflects what we do, or what we would do if given the chance.
5. Collaborate passionately.
Seek to understand co-worker’s strengths, weaknesses and working styles to allow for a more seamless collaboration. Collaboration is not new and the concept behind collaboration is actually quite simple—two or more people working together to create something or to achieve a goal—but the impact is profound. Even in this simple scenario, a lot is required. First we need to find someone to collaborate with, and that person needs to be relevant to what it is we are doing. Then we need to communicate to that person that we could use their help. That person needs to acknowledge the communication and offer their help. Then a sufficient amount of trust and mutual benefit needs to exist in order for you and the other person to proceed in actually collaborating together.